Colleen Thornton's Blog

We are always in the process of reinventing ourselves. Everyday serves as an opportunity to create the person you want to be. Like the old adage goes, today is the first day of the rest of your life. The thing is that I don’t actually know who I want to be. I want to be a writer but what that really means is I want to write.

The best day ever involves two girls with a common thirst for adventure taking their bikes to far-and-away places in Indonesia and then trying to get home.

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” - Buddha

Ugh. This best describes how I feel about the dating game, because in all seriousness it is a game. There are guidelines, rules and penalties for those who don’t play “properly” (however ambiguous that word is). There is the right time to text and the wrong time to call. There is a proper amount of time to wait before responding to a message so as to feign disinterest or unavailability.

CAUTION: I’ve used the word NASTY prolifically in this blog, for good reason because no synonym seems to suffice. And, I am going to make some huge generalizations here about “gendered” hygiene, totally culturally specific and from my experience being a woman and living and travelling with boys (and by boys I mean grown men, you know, the ones who put their dirty backpack on the bed!).

Saying goodbye is hard. Letting go is even harder. Even in all their beauty and enchantment, encounters of the road must meet reality at the end of the day and punch out like everything else. Perhaps you met someone for a day and fell in love. Perhaps you spent three weeks with someone and said a sweet goodbye.

“My body compensates the ageing my soul denies” - Udit Suda

After living in East Java, Indonesia for 15 months I finally made the trip to Mount Bromo, one of the main tourist attractions in this part of the country. I love mountains, I love hiking but I don’t love piles of people on the mountain with me, which is why I’d been reluctant to make the trip.

I love making plans but I hate having commitments. But commitment grounds us and makes us become something better than we can be without it I think. Commitment can make us responsible and dependable people. Commitment can protect us from a lifetime of shallow, fleeting relationships, and impulsive, potentially self-destructive behaviours and frequent bad decisions.